Abraham Joshua Heschel said: “A person is what he aspires for. In order to know myself, I ask: What are the ends I am striving to attain? What are the values I care for most?”
I want you to really think about this statement because it makes a bold and profound assertion about WHO you are.
Normally, we think a person is however they act. If a person acts a certain way then those actions define that person. If a person lost their temper today then they are a hothead. If a person bought their spouse a gift today for no particular reason they that person is thoughtful and generous. Our actions define us, right?
And if we want to be a different person we usually think we have to wait until we behave differently.