I’m sure you’ve told your spouse hundreds of times, ‘I love you.’ But sometimes it’s not what you say; it’s how you say it that has the greatest impact.
Have you ever been on the beach when a plane flies overhead dragging one of those signs behind it? I once saw one that said, ‘Julie, will you marry me?’ Shortly after the plane flew by, I saw a woman jumping up and down in joy, screaming, and hugging her friend. I guess that was Julie.
Julie’s husband proposed using the same words as most men. But the way he said it was special and Julie will never forget it.
Your assignment this week has an easy part and a hard part. The easy part is to tell your spouse, ‘I love you.’ The hard part is to do it in a way they will never forget.
I actually got this idea from a boot camp alumnus who sent me an email to share all the unique ways she said, ‘I love you’ to her husband. She gave me permission to share her ideas with you. I hope they inspire you and get your creative juices flowing. She wrote:
1. I spelled ‘I love you’ with canned cheese and crackers and left it with his dinner.
2. I wrote ‘I love you’ on the shower wall with dry erase markers.
3. I painted ‘I love you’ on our rock which he keeps with him always.
4. I spelled ‘I love you’ with peas on top of his mashed potatoes.
Here are some other ideas:
1. Page your spouse with the message ‘1-4-3’ which is code for ‘I love you.’
2. Make a photo collage in the shape of ‘1-4-3’ or ‘I love you.’
3. Hang a big ‘I love you’ sign from your staircase.
4. Make a home video of you singing ‘I love you’ and play it for your spouse.
5. Convince the manager at a store to let you announce over the loud speaker, ‘Honey, it’s (your name) and I just wanted to say I love you.’
If your spouse gets this email, then your job this week is harder because you need to come up with an original idea not on the above list. When it comes to ‘I love you,’ originality rules.
If your spouse doesn’t get this email, then go ahead and pull from one of the ideas above, or come up with your own idea.
In any event, say ‘I love you’ this week in a way your spouse will never forget. I know you’ve said it hundreds of times. But we all need to hear it again and again. ‘I love you’ never grows old. Especially when you find new ways to say it.
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Mort Fertel is a world authority on the psychology of relationships and has an international reputation for saving marriages. In addition to working with couples, he teaches individuals how to single-handedly transform their marital situation.