Did you ever get ‘into’ singing a song with friends?
You know, you’re driving along on a road trip, a great song comes on, and you and your friends spontaneously belt it out. Then, as the song winds down, you joke, laugh, or talk.
Somehow it seems like you’re better friends after singing together.
You know what’s amazing about singing compared to talking? When you and your spouse talk, you can’t do it at the same time or you’ll interrupt each other.
But singing is just the opposite. When two people sing, the whole point is to do it together. The idea is to be in sync with each other.
Talking at the same time creates conflict. Singing at the same time creates harmony.
Ever been a rock concert? The band plays the first few notes of its most popular song, everyone screams, flicks their lighter, and starts singing along. It feels like you’re best friends with 30,000 people, doesn’t it?
Something special happens when people sing together. When two people join their voices; it unites their hearts.
Well, by now you can guess thisweek’s assignment. It may seem a bit silly, but silly is good for your marriage. So here’s what I want you to do.
Pick a song to sing together. Pick one you really like and can get into. If you have it on CD, then play it while you sing along together. If not, go online, print out the lyrics of a song, and do a home performance. If you’re really bold, invite your kids to listen. If you’re not feeling bold at all, have a drink first.
I know you’re thinking you’ll pass on this one. Too awkward, right? Don’t do it. Don’t skip this one.
You’re right, it’ll be weird at first, but I PROMISE YOU you’ll get past that and you’ll have fun with it. Like it said, silly is good for your marriage. lisa, be silly for 3 minutes. Sing a song with your spouse. For more info, get the free report 7 Secrets for Fixing Your Marriage at www.MarriageFitness.com.
Mort Fertel is a world authority on the psychology of relationships and has an international reputation for saving marriages. In addition to working with couples, he teaches individuals how to single-handedly transform their marital situation.