I want you to imagine for a moment that you get invited to the Academy Awards in Hollywood. Not only are you going to the Oscars, but you’re going to arrive in the same limousine with Hillary Swank and Clint Eastwood. Can you believe it?
For a few moments when you exit that limo, the whole world will see you on television. How long do you think it’ll take you to get dressed that night?
How many stores will you shop in before you pick what you’re going to wear? Think about the preparations you might make. Will you diet the week before? You’ll wear your finest jewelry, right? Maybe get a new watch? Spend a little more for a chic hair cut?
I’ll admit that it would be a thrill to have the attention of the whole world for a moment. But wouldn’t you rather have one person’s attention for a lifetime?
Before I give you your assignment for the week, I want to share with you one more thought about dressing-up.
Forget the Oscars for now. When you go to a wedding or a black-tie affair, who are you dressing up for? Think about it. You spend all that time getting ready, putting on your finest clothes, Roll out the red carpet for YOU and looking your best. For who?
You might think that I’m suggesting that you’re doing it for all the people who will be at the party. But I don’t think that’s the case. I think you’re doing it for YOU. We spend all that time and energy looking our best for fancy occasions because it makes US feel good. WE feel special.
Don’t get me wrong. There’s nothing wrong with looking your best and feeling good about it. But let me ask you this: What if you got all dressed-up for date night? Who would feel special then?
“Honey, why are you all dressedup?” “It’s our date night. I’m dressed up
Your assignment: get dressed up for date night this week. You’ll feel good. Your spouse will feel special. And your marriage will get a boost.
Mort Fertel is a world authority on the psychology of relationships and has an international reputation for saving marriages. In addition to working with couples, he teaches individuals how to single-handedly transform their marital situation.